Life is simple. We complicate things and go hoarse over
it being complex. The moment you deal decisively with the so-called complexity,
it starts becoming simple again.
Yes, can understand your situation. Here go a few points
for you to ponder over. Hope, they help you arrive at some solution. The final
decision, of course, is for you to take since no one else can decide what is
good for you and what is not.
Each one of us has one’s unique
blueprint to adhere to.
Like
in case of our faces, hardly any two blueprints could be identical. In your bid
to do justice to your blueprint, you must be exactly aware
of what you want to achieve and be objective enough to assess your
strengths and weaknesses. At the same time, you need to be savvy, creative and
courageous. It is an individual decision. No comparison will help.
A successful industrialist used
to go everyday to his unit situated a few kilometres away from the city. On his
way to work and back, he would invariably see a healthy young cattle grazer
loitering in the woods or resting under a tree. ‘‘Why is he wasting his time?’’
the industrialist used to think. One day, he couldn’t help but halt and talk to
the youth. ‘‘You are absolutely free while your cattle graze. Why don’t you do
something?’’ The cattle grazer said, ‘‘What can I do? I am such a poor chap.’’
‘‘You can cut the wood, sell it and earn money,’’ the wise old man suggested.
Looking at the youth’s quizzical face, he continued, ‘‘Soon you will have
enough to set up a small timber unit. You can then expand your business and
earn still more.’’ The youth said, ‘‘What will I ultimately gain out of the
whole effort?’’ The industrialist said, ‘‘My young friend, you can lead a happy
and peaceful life. You will be in a position to do whatever you want to do.’’
The cattle grazer smiled. ‘‘I am doing just that. I want to loiter around and
rest.’’
It’s important to exactly know what you want. You feel your family-centric approach is putting hurdles in your own
progress. While saying so, you need to clearly define your ‘progress’. What
does it mean to you? Once you know it, you can decide on your course of action
and reset your approach accordingly.
Let’s consider an allegory. You want to go to a certain place
and you have three travel options — a supersonic, a jet and a train. You can
reach your destination by the supersonic, say, in 10 minutes, by the jet in 100
minutes and by the train in 1000 minutes. It all depends on how early you want
to reach the place. You will have to suitably select the mode of transport. It
is absolutely your choice.
There are two important aspects of this allegory.
First, the travel cost will be different for each of
them. The supersonic travel may cost
you a bomb while you will shell out a hefty amount to travel in a jet and pay a
pittance, may be, to travel in a train.
Second, your co-travellers will be different in a
supersonic, a jet and a train. They will eat differently, dress differently and
behave differently. It will be like living in different worlds altogether. To
feel at easy in any of them, you need to possess that sense of belonging.
Now imagine, creating assets worth Rs one crore is your
destination. Again, what matters is how early you want to reach there. You will
have to suitably select the travel option. It is totally your choice. Of
course, the price you will have to pay to reach your destination and type of
the world you live in will depend entirely on your travel option.
You may decide to build assets worth Rs one crore over 30
years. You can then afford to work for a stipulated number of hours every day,
switch your cellphone off at 9 pm only to switch it on at 9 am the next day,
spend time with your family and friends,
pursue your
hobbies and interests as and when you feel like; in short, you can take it
easy. You will have less tensions and stress and can enjoy reasonably good
health. The price you will be paying is living in a modest house, driving a
simple car and leading a thrifty life.
If you decide to reach the goal, say, in 10 years, you will
have to work for longer hours. You can’t afford to ignore your smartphone. You
will not be able to spend adequate time with your family and friends or pursue
your hobbies and interests, as and when you want. That’s the price you will be
paying. However, you can afford to own a bigger and better house, drive some
smart SUV and lead a lavish life overall. Your price will also include
work-related tensions and stress-induced health issues.
Again, it may be your decision to achieve the target in a
year. You will have to eat work, drink work and breathe work in that case.
Everything else will have to take a backseat. If you are married to work, you
have to work at your marriage, they say. You’ll have to be ready to face such a
situation. That’s its price. You will have a palatial house but you may seldom
get to live there, you will own a fleet of high-end cars but your driver will
have most of the driving pleasure. All in all, you will lead an enviable life
but ironically, at some point, you may envy a ‘train traveller’ relishing pani-puri
at a roadside stall or simply relaxing under a tree in a quiet garden.
An important thing I want to point out here. We have been
talking only about progress as a professional. Our progress as a person is
completely different and doesn’t depend on the mode of travel and the like. A
person having professional highs may hit personal lows and a person with
professional lows may have personal highs.
In a nutshell, you must clearly define your ‘progress’. The
decision about your destination and journey duration is solely yours. Weigh all
your priorities and options and take your call. Best of luck…